Victoria Eating Disorder Peer Support Group
Peer Support Group
For adults, ages (18+) who struggle with any behaviours as a result of a mal-adaptive relationship with food and/or their body.
FREE weekly drop-in group.
MONDAYS from 6:30PM - 8:00PM
We meet in Room C701 (the 7th floor, across from the elevators), Patient Care Centre, Royal Jubilee Hospital, 1952 Bay Street, Victoria, BC V8R 1J8, Canada
(Note: we do not meet on statutory holidays. If we are not meeting we offer support by phone, text, e-mail, or messages via our Facebook page. In crisis situations we will re-direct individuals to appropriate services. See our contact page for details.)
Group is intended to be a safe, nurturing environments for adults struggling with eating disorders to explore and hear new ways of understanding and processing their behaviours.
We support adults aged 18+ who struggle with eating disorders, disordered eating, or any other struggles with food, exercise, or body image that affects quality of life or interferes with day to day living. Members who do not have a diagnosed eating disorder (either from not seeking help, or not being able to access help), but who have a troubled relationship with food and/or body, are completely welcome here. We aim to provide a safe, non-judgmental space for all.
It should be noted that we are not clinicians and we encourage individuals to seek professional support if it is something they are open to. As peers, our facilitators are individuals who are in various places of recovery themselves (some fully recovered, some still in the process of recovery). We are conscious that this may not suit the needs of every attendee and again, we encourage seeking out professional supports.
PEER SUPPORT: What is it?
Peer recovery support is the gathering of two or more people who offer mutual support, support each other through empathy and compassion for each other's issue. Some peer support is facilitated by clinicians, but our group is facilitated by people with lived experiences of eating disorders (at various places in recovery), so we understand and empathize with the struggles others may be experiencing. Our purpose as facilitators is mainly to promote group functioning and offer support in the ways we can, but the group leads itself with no member serving as a source of professional expertise. We provide a thoughtful and safe environment for members to speak out about their struggles and victories. We also often send out a weekly email to provide information about issues that arose in group that week. No one is left out, but facilitators will try to ensure that someone sitting quietly has the opportunity to speak if they want to.
It is important to note that peer support is an adjunct to professional help, but does not replace it. We encourage individuals to connect with professional supports in their community or on the mainland.
Our Eating Disorder Peer Support Group is for anyone who has a troubled relationship with food and/or their bodies. We are a volunteer-driven organization, and all facilitators have lived experience with having an eating disorder.
An important contributor to recovery, peer support is a supportive relationship between people who have a lived experience in common. The peer support worker provides emotional and social support to others who share a common experience.
PROVIDING HOPE FOR RECOVERY
Peer support programs work by offering people support, encouragement, and hope that recovery is possible. Peer support considers the wellness of the whole person and focuses on health and recovery rather than illness and disability, in order to assist people in finding their own path to recovery. There is no "one-size-fits-all" approach to peer support. It can take many different forms and be offered wherever people need it, whether in peer-run organizations, workplaces, schools, or healthcare settings. Peer support is intended to complement traditional clinical care and vice versa.
DIFFERENT TYPES OF PEER SUPPORT
The various types of peer support fall along a spectrum ranging from informal support to formal peer support within a structured organizational setting. “Informal peer support” occurs when acquaintances notice the similarity of their lived experience and listen to and support each other. Peer support within a structured clinical setting can involve programs where peer support workers offer the opportunity for a supportive, empowering relationship. The values, principles of practice, and skills of peer support workers apply to all types of peer support and all types of organizations that offer it."
Taken from the Mental Health Commission of Canada.
do I belong?
Do you try to eat alone or avoid social engagements, because you don’t want anyone to see you eating?
Is your mind often preoccupied with thoughts about food and exercise?
Do you have trouble with portion control?
Do you try to schedule your life around food?
Have you eliminated certain food groups – like fats or grains – from your diet?
Do you feel like you have to “earn” your food through diet or exercise?
Do you struggle with poor body image?
Does your weight on any given day determine how your day will go?
Do you find yourself body checking by looking in mirrors or reflective glass when you’re out?
Do you compare your body with other people’s bodies?
Do you go from one diet/exercise program to another?
Do you deny yourself foods that you are craving?
Do you sometimes feel afraid, guilty or ashamed of eating?
Do you feel like you always have to lose weight?
Do you feel that you can never be satisfied at any weight?
Are there other ways in which you struggle with your relationship with food?
If you answered "yes" to one or more of these questions, you may find attending a peer group validating and supportive.
This group centers around those struggling with eating disorders and disordered eating, but we have had loved ones attend as well.
Eating disorders may include individual or multiple combinations of behaviours, which may change from over time, but the thought processes often remain the same for people who struggle over a number of years. Behaviours may include restriction (self-starvation) bingeing (eating a significantly larger portion of food that would be considered reasonable for a non-eating disordered person, purging (using behaviours to compensation for calories consumed, including self-induced vomiting, misuse of pharmaceuticals, or compulsive exercise), chewing and spitting, or other behaviours.
Disordered eating describes a variety of abnormal eating behaviors that, by themselves, do not warrant diagnosis of an eating disorder. It includes behaviors that are common features of eating disorders (usually to a lesser extent). Much of current society has disordered eating habits (e.g. yo-yo dieting, "clean eating," etc.)
This group is based on open talk principles and is not a 12-step group. Some groups begin with a brief check-in for each member, other groups go directly to open talk or we take time to delve into deeper check-ins. The peer facilitator(s) will work to ensure everyone is included and welcomed. Based on the number of persons present, sometimes we take more time with check-ins and allow the conversation to develop from there.
We ask that members take care to avoid obvious triggers/details when they speak. For example, say, "I've lost a lot of weight", instead of, "I've lost X pounds"; "I am really struggling with improving my nutrition, which is quite poor right now" instead of, "I only eat X calories a day". Please refrain from talking about your own weight, or commenting on anyone else's. Finally, please avoid graphic descriptions of your behaviours. For example, it is enough to know that you are really struggling with bingeing and purging, rather than a detailed description of your behaviours.
We acknowledge that sometimes it is in the nature of eating disorders to want to share details and we encourage participants to explore why they feel the need to do so.
Members are encouraged to expand on any successes, strategies they tried during the week and how they worked, or thoughts, urges or behaviours they are struggling with. The goal is to hear from as many people as possible, with each of us engaging in honest reflection and providing supportive and thoughtful feedback. Facilitators will often offer scientific information that can help members understand the context of their eating disorder experiences. Often, in the week following group, members will receive an email with articles or studies the group wanted to know more about.
Members try to set realistic and achievable goals at the end of the group to work on during the next week. Members can also use this time to talk about how they are feeling at this time. Leaders will remain available for a limited time after the group ends for members who are feeling the need for additional closure of the meeting.
Members are asked to turn cell phone off during meetings, or set to vibrate if you have a pressing need to be available. Please always leave the room if you need to answer a call or reply to a text.
If a member needs to leave part-way through a group for whatever reason, they are welcome to do so.
Any group member who indicates they are at risk of suicide, self-harm, or harming another person will be referred to appropriate emergency health services.